However, in longterm love, nearly every couple goes through times when your sex drives differ. Unless you have the right tools (which most couples don’t), this can lead to a whole variety of issues, such as a lack of emotional intimacy, dissatisfaction, resentment, conflict, power struggles, deep disconnection, depression, affairs, low self-esteem, or an invisible divorce. In fact, many researchers and therapists agree that, when a relationship involves differing drives and nothing is done to ensure you both feel fulfilled, the relationship is doomed for decline.