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The one word that can wipe out all the good in your relationship…
Written on January 12th.

Have any guesses what the one word is that can wipe out the good?

We see this happen again and again. We’ll be sitting in a session with a couple. Partner A shares something from their heart, hoping that maybe, this time, their partner will really hear them. Maybe they even perk up for a moment as Partner B begins to respond.

Until…

This one word creeps in and changes everything, leaving Partner A deflated and disappointed, feeling unheard and unappreciated. Again.

This word can ruin an appreciation, turn an apology into a criticism, destroy an opportunity for connection, and wipe out all the celebratory energy in just one breath.

Wondering what it is?

It’s this one little sneaky word: “but.”

Below, we’ve given you some examples of some of the most common “but’s” (in no particular order) that we’re suggesting you clear from your vocabulary…

#1 – The Defensive But

“Yea, but you…”

The Defensive But has a hard time receiving feedback, gets defensive rather than open-minded, is critical rather than curious, and is stuck in their own head, rather than dropping into their partner’s heart and really hearing them with empathy. … Read More.



How to Stay Connected As a Team, No Matter the Project
Written on December 14th.


If you are like most couples, you may find that, when you and your beloved work on projects together, you tend to criticize your beloved or feel criticized, you have different opinions, and they become a source of conflict or stress, you wish your beloved would just do things your way, you feel frustrated, annoyed, discouraged, disappointed, there’s a power struggle going on, and/or you start nitpicking.

Rest assured, you are not alone AND there is a much better way!

Today, we’re excited to share with you the 6 essential keys to working on any project with your beloved, whether it be a house project, running a business together, planning a party or vacation together, or raising children.

The first essential key is simply this…

#1 – Commit to being on the SAME team.
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When You Want Connection and Your Partner Needs Space
Written on November 17th.

If you are either wanting more space OR more connection in your relationship, you’re in the right place.

connection and space

In our counseling practice, we regularly hear from couples who feel stuck in a conflict of one person wanting more space and the other craving more connection. While it’s rare for partners to desire the exact same amount of closeness, when the roles of Pursuer and Distancer become increasingly polarized, it can create serious issues. In contrast, when there is a HEALTHY balance between togetherness and separateness, you get to be best friends AND passionate lovers!

First, let’s look at what happens when there is too much space.

An imbalanced amount of distance creates an environment for people to grow apart, to feel unsafe, unwanted, or unloved, for affairs to ripen, and for feelings of resentment, hurt, insecurity, anxiousness, and frustration to fester. … Read More.



The #1 thing standing in the way of heart connection
Written on October 20th.

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Whether you are disconnected about how to parent, where to go out to eat, the dishes, the clutter, how often you make love, how lazy, controlling, needy, disorganized, or undependable one of you are, how much time you spend together, or how to handle your finances, this thing we are talking about is playing a KEY role in perpetuating the conflict and preventing reconnection.

Ready for it?

You made up a story and are believing it to be true.

We know that might seem like a stretch because your thoughts FEEL. SO. REAL.

Just stay with us for a moment 🙂

From our thousands of client sessions, we simply find, again and again and again, that couples are upset with each other, not because of what’s really going on, but because of how they’ve interpreted it. … Read More.



Why You Must Heal from the PAST to Make Love LAST
Written on September 15th.

Have you ever found yourself or your beloved feeling really upset from something you judged to be insignificantly small? rearview mirror If so, it’s a sign that unhealed wounds from the past may be playing a role, and we want to present this idea to you on two levels.

First, we are referring to unhealed wounds from THIS relationship you are currently in.

When you and your beloved argue, if you tend to bring up past wrongs or mistakes and use them as weapons, this is a sign you need to heal the past before you can move forward. We see, again and again, couples that get really upset with each other, not because of what’s going on in that moment, but because it has triggered old pain. … Read More.



I’m a really nice person, so why can I be so mean to my partner?
Written on August 18th.

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When you are with your friends, are you flexible, kind, generous, understanding, caring, encouraging, and a delight to be around?

unhappy couple

Then, when it comes to your beloved, can you be stubborn, impatient, moody, controlling, critical, and a poor communicator?

And maybe you’ve had one of these experiences…

 

  •  You and your beloved are running late for a party. You end up arguing the whole way there. The moment you arrive, you greet people with cheery voices, smiles, and hugs.
  •  You just had a fabulous time out with your friends. You come home to your beloved, and you instantly start nitpicking about the laundry, the dirty dishes, and anything else your partner hasn’t done “right.”
  •   Your best friend tells you about something they want to do or purchase, and you shower them with encouragement to go for it.
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3 Ways to Get Your Partner to Be More Romantic (without always having to ask or initiate)
Written on July 21st.

We are often asked the question “How do I get my partner to do more romantic things without always feeling like I have to ask or initiate it?” Sound like a familiar thought in your own head?! 🙂
Romance
We created this little video to share 3 key things you can start doing today to up the romance in your relationship!

Also, we want to warmly welcome you to our upcoming Thrive in Love retreat. If you want an unforgettable experience truly taking your love (and life!) to a whole new level and want to feel indescribably closer to your sweetheart, we would be honored and delighted to have you join us! Please be in touch with any questions!

Enjoy the video! May your moments be filled with special touches that add a little extra sparkle, magic, and romance and communicate just how loved, appreciated, and valued you both are! … Read More.



4 Tips When You’re Feeling Jealous
Written on June 16th.

For some of you, jealousy and relationships go hand in hand. For others, it mainly shows up during certain periods, especially when your significant other is working late, disconnecting, putting more energy into something or someone else than you, or spending more time around someone you find threatening. You may feel jealous of your partner’s hobbies, career, colleagues, friends, children, or admirers.

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Jealousy, in whatever form it takes, can quickly lead to overwhelming feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, fear, worry, anxiety, anger, disappointment, and doubt and can create turmoil within oneself and in the relationship. We’re here to help you break through jealousy’s deceptive bonds so you can open to the love that’s been waiting for you all along!

Tip #1: Jealousy = a cry for love and acceptance within you.
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