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This is secular (non-religious) counseling, therapy, and coaching. However, of course, we wholeheartedly welcome whatever your spiritual or religious views may be. We are honored to have clients who span the spectrum of spiritual (and non-spiritual) views, and this diversity delights us. You will be accepted just as you are.
This is one of the most common concerns when it comes to couples counseling, and we fully understand. Who would want to come to a place where they are going to feel ganged up on, invalidated, unheard, or even more misunderstood? We go above and beyond to make sure both of you know we are ALL on the same team, and we create an incredibly safe space, completely free from judgment, blaming, and shaming. We are here as your allies, both of you. We never take sides because it isn’t about sides.
Plus, in all the relationship issues we’ve ever seen, there are ways that both of you have created it, not just one of you. Our time together is about compassionately uncovering the dreams, fears, needs, wounds, stories, and feelings going on underneath both of your actions, healing from past hurts, helping you both feel deeply heard and honored, finding creative solutions that allow both of you to get your needs met, and bringing in fun and meaningful exercises for reconnection and growth.
Couples walk out of our office feeling lighter, relieved, with renewed hope, with new possibilities they hadn’t seen before, and empowered with techniques they can effectively start applying right away.
We don’t believe it is our place to tell you whether you should be together or not, as this is a deeply personal decision. Instead, our role is to help you uncover what’s possible in your relationship. What we’ve found is that most couples are only experiencing very little of their potential for a thriving, healthy, conscious, loving partnership.
Most of us don’t learn anywhere how to have a great relationship, and there certainly aren’t many inspiring role models either. We have worked with countless couples who felt miles apart, who worried they had fallen out of love, and who felt like their problems and pain were too big.
Through counseling, they realized they actually needed, not to break up, but to start over together with so many new insights on how to make things wonderfully work. Once couples realize how great their relationship can be, how fabulous it can feel to be loved and supported in the ways you’ve been longing for, they oftentimes eagerly want to stay together and can’t imagine what they would have been unknowingly giving up.
However, some couples, after going through the process, realize that they want different things, in a relationship and in their lives. These couples get to leave things on much better terms, had the opportunity to learn some amazing tools they can use for the rest of their lives, and have the comfort of knowing they really tried everything they could before ending it all. Plus, if they are parents together, nearly everything we do in couples counseling also applies to co-parenting and can be enormously helpful.
We also realize that the decision to stay married is sometimes a religious one, and we assure you that we will fully honor your religious and cultural beliefs and warmly welcome and embrace people of all backgrounds.
This is a great question, and it really depends, both on where you currently are and where you want to be. We love helping couples have breakthroughs in every single session and to help you move forward and upward as quickly as possible. You will see amazing results!
On many occasions, couples have, within minutes, broken through a gridlocked issue they’ve been struggling with for 10-20 years! If there is a specific issue you want to transform, a session or two can make a huge difference. If you are long overdue for addressing a variety of challenges, 3-10 sessions may be a better fit. If you are a couple who is powerfully committed to consistently thriving at your highest level, we may do weekly sessions for a month or two and then start to spread them out to once monthly or bi-monthly for tune-ups for a year or more.
If you want to grow as quickly as possible and have the least amount of sessions, we encourage you to do these two things:
(1) Be willing to change and grow. We find willingness and a commitment to growth to be the greatest predictor of success. If you are more committed to being “right,” staying stuck, being the victim, staying in a power struggle, etc. than being happy, then it’s going to take a little while longer.
If you come into sessions with an open mind and heart and an eagerness to grow into an even better version of yourself, great things will happen!
(2) Do your homework (otherwise called “homeplay!”). After each session, we will give you some homeplay. This is your opportunity to integrate and put into practice the things we will be exploring. The techniques we share are grounded in the best research on the planet when it comes to relationships. If you use them, they will work! Couples who do their homework see exponential growth, and it’s very exciting.
Yes! We are thrilled to live at a time when relationships are openly taking many different forms. We’re here to help you create the healthiest version of whatever kind of relationship fully honors both of you.
Plus, we’ve found that nearly all of the relationship processes and tools we share work wondrously, not only for romantic relationships, but also help us improve all kinds of relationships in our lives, including those with our families, kids, friends, coworkers, and beyond.
So, again, YES, we will fully welcome and embrace you in your non-traditional relationship!
Although we are wholehearted advocates for transparency and authenticity, we fully realize it is a process, and there may be things you don’t yet know when, how, or if to share. We regularly do a combination of couples and individual sessions, and one-on-one sessions are a perfect space to explore these things.
You have our utmost commitment that we would never share anything with your partner that you share with us in confidence. What is really important is that you are honest with us so that we can most effectively support you. We promise not to judge you in any way. We are right by your side as your allies as you explore the full terrain of your inner experience.
So, yes, this will still work! There are many layers to the journey of relationship transformation, and incredible changes can still happen. Hopefully, moving forward, we will get you to a place where you can create an open-hearted and fully honest relationship where it feels safe, liberating, and comfortable to share all of your feelings and experiences with one another.
First of all, we honor you for being open to trying it out! We assure you – you will learn right away that it’s not so scary and can even be really enjoyable, fun, inspiring, and bring you great relief, peace, and hope. Counseling and coaching can, of course, look a little different, depending on where you go.
We aim to create the safest space imaginable, filled with loving kindness, empathy, understanding, and support. Our sessions offer a time and place that is set aside from your daily life, routines, and various roles. It is a time when you can fully unload and share all of who you are, not just the parts you usually show to the world. You can be assured that we won’t judge you or think less of you. Our clients are our heroes and constantly inspire us with their courage and authenticity. We are here to help you see yourself and your situation in a new, empowering, and insightful way.
For those who choose to come to our offices in Bloomington, IN, you will find that we have a very healing and cozy office, filled with beautiful colors, relaxing music, candles, and healing décor to help you relax, be at ease, and feel right at home. Whether it’s in person or over the phone or Skype, we will have a wonderfully illuminating conversation, filled with thought-provoking questions, loving guidance, and an abundance of tools. We will give you permission to feel all your feelings and to share your biggest fears and wildest dreams. We have a ton of handouts and often give you sheets that go over the concepts we explore together.
We have spent decades immersed in personal transformation training, have indepthly studied everything we can get our hands on about relationships, and are stockpiled with what we believe are the absolute best strategies for thriving, individually and as a couple. In addition to talking, when our clients are open to it, we also use somatic, body-centered, mind-body, and energy psychology therapies, simply because we see astounding results from them. These are, of course, always optional.
Nearly every couple, after working with us, deeply wishes they hadn’t spent so many years struggling on their own. We are in awe of how quickly transformation can happen when you have the right tools and support.
Couples often tell us that their sessions with us feel like a date night! We love keeping it positive, and, most often, couples leave our office smiling and laughing. It is our greatest joy, passion, and honor to do this work with people, and you will find that it shows.
Yes! We see many individuals, and it is amazing to see the amount of transformation that can still occur. Of course, we enthusiastically recommend both of you being in the session but, when that isn’t an option, we warmly welcome just you! It can truly make all the difference to feel like you have someone on your team, someone who can empathize with and understand what you are going through, and someone who has a roadmap to help you get unstuck.
Yes! Some couples bring their children (those who don’t require close supervision) with toys, books, movies (Wi-Fi available), etc. to hang out in the waiting room. We want to make coaching and counseling as accessible as possible for you, so please let us know how we can help.
Private individual sessions are particularly helpful to address personal healing that is necessary to the health and well-being of your relationship. They can also be greatly beneficial if there are things you’ve not yet shared with your partner that you want to explore in a completely safe space, if you are really questioning your relationship and want to determine if it’s best to stay or leave, and/or if your partner isn’t willing to attend sessions together but you’d still love to experience some wonderful shifts in your relationship. When YOU transform, your relationship and life do too!
Couples sessions are available to help you experience relationship breakthroughs, create win-win solutions to conflicts, find ways to make your differences work for you, reignite your spark, grow to the next level, heal from the past, effectively communicate, and develop a bond that is full of appreciation, understanding, mutual support, and joy.
If you both of you are willing and eager, we suggest you schedule a couples session first. Then, after we meet, we will offer our suggestion for the path ahead. Ultimately, we want for you whatever you desire and whatever will serve you best of all, and we are flexible!
For those who choose phone or Zoom, you get to eliminate some of the logistical challenges and can feel the extra ease, anonymity, and comfort of home. You can choose whatever setting works best for you, such as snuggled up on the couch in your pajamas. 🙂 The process is nearly identical to seeing us at our office, and we feel deeply connected to clients we’ve never met in person and who live all over the world. Technology is an amazing thing!
Not in the least! We see couples in every stage of their relationship. Wherever you are is perfect.
We have an incredible team of relationship experts here to help, and you will be in the best of hands, no matter who provides you support. Most clients simply choose to work with the counselor/coach whose availability best matches their own.
We are confident you will see positive results quickly and will feel abundantly supported by our caring, compassionate, wise, and expertly trained team.
If we can help you find the very best match we’d love to help. Call us at 812-223-7186 Monday-Friday or schedule a free 20-minute consultation if you’d like to chat before booking.