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Announcing NEW Dear Beloved Notes!
Written on December 28th.

Ever wish you had just the thing to say to make your beloved’s day, to bring them a smile, to remind them how valuable and wonderful they are, to apologize for those moments when you weren’t exactly being your kindest​, and to appreciate them for those things it’s easy to take for granted?

We know how vitally important these expressions of love are in a thriving relationship, and we also know a lot of people either: (1) have a hard time finding the words to say or (2) are so busy that days and weeks go by without taking the time to regularly communicate in sweeter, more romantic, and thoughtful ways.

Cup of coffee with heart shape and pencil with notebook

​In our work with couples, we love asking each partner what their beloved could do to help them feel happier and more connected. … Read More.

4 Tips When You’re Feeling Jealous
Written on June 24th.

For some of you, jealousy and relationships go hand in hand. For others, it mainly shows up during certain periods, especially when your significant other is working late, disconnecting, putting more energy into something or someone else than you, or spending more time around someone you find threatening. You may feel jealous of your partner’s hobbies, career, colleagues, friends, children, or admirers.

Jealousy, in whatever form it takes, can quickly lead to overwhelming feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, fear, worry, anxiety, anger, disappointment, and doubt and can create turmoil within oneself and in the relationship. We’re here to help you break through jealousy’s deceptive bonds so you can open to the love that’s been waiting for you all along!

Goodbye, Jealousy Hello, Love

Tip #1: Jealousy = a cry for love and acceptance within you.
 … Read More.

4 Tips for Making Morning Sex Part of Your Relationship Repertoire
Written on June 10th.

Thanks so much to our dear friend and colleague and renowned Sex Educator, Kate McCombs, for her guest blog below! Kate is here to share with you “4 Tips for Making Morning Sex Part of Your Relationship Repertoire.” Here we are pictured with Kate when she came to visit us from NYC this spring to teach a wonderful guest lecture at Indiana University!

Bret, Christine, and Kate

Bret, Christine, and Kate

4 Tips for Making Morning Sex Part of Your Relationship Repertoire

by Kate McCombs

At the end of a busy day, some of us just don’t have the bandwidth to get in a sexy mood. Stress, fatigue, and overwhelm can keep us from bringing presence and attention to our sex lives. Morning sex is a particularly fun way of overcoming this end-of-day challenge. … Read More.

4 Ways to Know If Your Relationship is Worth Saving
Written on May 16th.

By people of all ages and in every stage of relationship, from those who are just dating to those newly married to long-time spouses, we are asked questions like:
“How do I know if I am supposed to stay in this relationship?”
“Is this the person I am supposed to marry?”
“Is our marriage worth saving?”
“Is this relationship worth fighting for?”
“Can I do better than this?”
“Should I stay or should I go?”

Should I stay, or should I go?

Should I stay, or should I go?

While we never answer these kinds of questions for anyone (because they are deeply personal ones that only you can answer), we do have four criteria to help you gain the clarity you may be seeking!

When you are questioning your relationship, we know how difficult and scary it can be. … Read More.

2 Ways to Get Out of Your Funk & Back Into Your Groove
Written on April 17th.

Couples that come to us for counseling often talk about a longing to get back to where they used to be, when things were easier, love was flowing freely, and they felt deeply connected. But they feel lost about how to get there. Today, we’re excited to share with you 2 easy ways to get out of your funk and back into your groove!

Get Back Into Your Groove

#1: Create a New “Relationship Home Base.”

In your relationship, have you had the experience of things going really well for awhile, you are getting along, laughing together, smiling when you look at each other, sharing quality and positive time, making love, being affectionate, feeling connected, giving freely…and then…BAM…things are suddenly back to old patterns, gridlock issues, power struggles, nitpicking, blaming, criticizing, touching less, feeling dissatisfied, or any of those other things you wish you could avoid? … Read More.

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