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We created a special gift we’re excited to share with you: Date Night Discovery Cards! One of the complaints we regularly hear from couples is having too little quality time together. Once we get to know these couples better, we often learn that they do spend time together, but it’s not positive and intentional.
We’ve designed these cards to help you stay connected and know each other’s inner worlds, whether you have 5 minutes or 5 hours. You can keep these cards by your bedside and use them for 10-minute dates before falling asleep, or you can use them for longer romantic evenings.
The Date Night Discovery Cards offer an opportunity to practice asking each other open-ended questions. These are very different from yes and no questions (ex: “Do you want to stay in or go out to eat?”) or leading questions (ex: “Do you feel happy about…?”) or challenging questions that don’t feel supportive (ex: “Why won’t you just…”). … Read More.
In our counseling and coaching practice, the topic of sexuality comes up often, and it’s almost always because:
– one partner wants sex more often than the other
– it’s awkward to talk about physical intimacy, desires, and pleasure
– someone feels dissatisfied
We love helping couples reignite a sense of aliveness, passion, connection, and fulfillment in their sex life, and we thought it would be fun to bring our delightful friend and colleague, Kate McCombs (pictured to the left), into the conversation today.
Kate is the Founder of Sex Geekdom, the Managing Editor of MySexProfessor.com, and a sex educator who teaches workshops about pleasure, health, and sexuality. We love her positive, insightful, and accessible approach to sex and recently had the opportunity to ask her some questions. … Read More.
Have you ever thought women talk more than men? If so, you aren’t alone. This well-established myth was mainstreamed in 2006 when the book, “The Female Brain,” claimed women speak an average of 20,000 daily words, while men only speak 7,000. A critique later showed, however, the author was only citing the opinion of another self-help author, and it had no factual basis.
The truth is: on average, women and men talk nearly the same. One of the few scientific studies on the subject came out of the University of Arizona in 2007, showing women talk an average of 16,215 words per day versus 15,669 for men, a difference not statistically significant. The most interesting finding from the study showed that the difference between individuals can be as much as 45,000 words per day! … Read More.
Again and again, in our counseling practice, couples come to us who want their partner to change: to be healthier, more productive, more social and outgoing, more financially savvy, less demanding, sexier, more spiritual, and so on. If you are really honest with yourself, there are probably some ways you too wish your partner would change to fit your ideal image of a mate.
Being in a relationship is a very unique part of our lives. Here is this other human being who has a tremendous impact on us, and yet we don’t have control over their thoughts, feelings, actions, or appearance. When you wish your partner was different, it’s easy to feel frustrated, disappointed, discouraged, out of control, and dissatisfied. You’ve probably had moments dreaming of someone else and how much easier or more fulfilling (you think) it would be. … Read More.
We offer you a giant heartfelt WELCOME to the Center for Thriving Relationships and our first blog entry! We are so delighted and honored to have you here. THANK YOU so much for giving us this opportunity to connect, for opening your heart to us, for your willingness to learn and discover, for caring, and for tending to the relationships of your life. When you choose to grow, to transform, to become aware of your beautiful inner world, to see yourself and others in new and fresh ways, to awaken to what is possible, to connect deeply with the heart and essence of another human being, and to expand your capacity to love and be loved, the whole world wins. You can imagine us here greeting you with warm smiles and open arms. … Read More.