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Couples that come to us for counseling often talk about a longing to get back to where they used to be, when things were easier, love was flowing freely, and they felt deeply connected. But they feel lost about how to get there. Today, we’re excited to share with you 2 easy ways to get out of your funk and back into your groove!
#1: Create a New “Relationship Home Base.”
In your relationship, have you had the experience of things going really well for awhile, you are getting along, laughing together, smiling when you look at each other, sharing quality and positive time, making love, being affectionate, feeling connected, giving freely…and then…BAM…things are suddenly back to old patterns, gridlock issues, power struggles, nitpicking, blaming, criticizing, touching less, feeling dissatisfied, or any of those other things you wish you could avoid? … Read More.
We created a special gift we’re excited to share with you: Date Night Discovery Cards! One of the complaints we regularly hear from couples is having too little quality time together. Once we get to know these couples better, we often learn that they do spend time together, but it’s not positive and intentional.
We’ve designed these cards to help you stay connected and know each other’s inner worlds, whether you have 5 minutes or 5 hours. You can keep these cards by your bedside and use them for 10-minute dates before falling asleep, or you can use them for longer romantic evenings.
The Date Night Discovery Cards offer an opportunity to practice asking each other open-ended questions. These are very different from yes and no questions (ex: “Do you want to stay in or go out to eat?”) or leading questions (ex: “Do you feel happy about…?”) or challenging questions that don’t feel supportive (ex: “Why won’t you just…”). … Read More.
In our counseling and coaching practice, the topic of sexuality comes up often, and it’s almost always because:
– one partner wants sex more often than the other
– it’s awkward to talk about physical intimacy, desires, and pleasure
– someone feels dissatisfied
We love helping couples reignite a sense of aliveness, passion, connection, and fulfillment in their sex life, and we thought it would be fun to bring our delightful friend and colleague, Kate McCombs (pictured to the left), into the conversation today.
Kate is the Founder of Sex Geekdom, the Managing Editor of MySexProfessor.com, and a sex educator who teaches workshops about pleasure, health, and sexuality. We love her positive, insightful, and accessible approach to sex and recently had the opportunity to ask her some questions. … Read More.
Have you ever thought women talk more than men? If so, you aren’t alone. This well-established myth was mainstreamed in 2006 when the book, “The Female Brain,” claimed women speak an average of 20,000 daily words, while men only speak 7,000. A critique later showed, however, the author was only citing the opinion of another self-help author, and it had no factual basis.
The truth is: on average, women and men talk nearly the same. One of the few scientific studies on the subject came out of the University of Arizona in 2007, showing women talk an average of 16,215 words per day versus 15,669 for men, a difference not statistically significant. The most interesting finding from the study showed that the difference between individuals can be as much as 45,000 words per day! … Read More.
Again and again, in our counseling practice, couples come to us who want their partner to change: to be healthier, more productive, more social and outgoing, more financially savvy, less demanding, sexier, more spiritual, and so on. If you are really honest with yourself, there are probably some ways you too wish your partner would change to fit your ideal image of a mate.
Being in a relationship is a very unique part of our lives. Here is this other human being who has a tremendous impact on us, and yet we don’t have control over their thoughts, feelings, actions, or appearance. When you wish your partner was different, it’s easy to feel frustrated, disappointed, discouraged, out of control, and dissatisfied. You’ve probably had moments dreaming of someone else and how much easier or more fulfilling (you think) it would be. … Read More.