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The 4 Main Reasons Affairs Happen (+ How to Prevent Them)
Written on April 17th.

It’s human nature to reach out for support after something really painful has happened — rather than proactively reaching out just to keep the good things growing. Therefore, as you can imagine, we receive a lot of phone calls from couples reeling in the aftermath of affairs. And we’re so grateful and honored they reach out.

During the first session, the couple often looks at us, wondering: is there hope? Can our relationship be saved?

We wouldn’t do what we do if we didn’t believe in the awe-inspiring untapped potential in nearly every relationship we see and in the vast capacity we humans have for healing, transformation, and growth. We assure them, if both partners are willing to dive in and do whatever it takes, then YES, there is a lot of hope. … Read More.


Am I asking too much, or does my partner need to step it up?
Written on March 13th.

In our counseling work, we hear clients regularly complain about how they feel like things are imbalanced in their relationship, that they are giving more, doing more, loving more. When it comes to making money, household chores, being romantic, raising the kids, nurturing your relationship, and so on, have you ever caught yourself feeling like “you do all the work?”

It’s a very discouraging and frustrating place to be in — for both of you.

Your wants and desires are likely beautiful and valid. We simply want to set you up for optimal success by offering 7 quick tips that can help you break free from the rut of resentment and create more opportunities to feel more connected and supported as you co-create a mutually fulfilling partnership! … Read More.


What to talk about on date night other than the kids?
Written on February 14th.

*We were recently approached by Bloomington Parent Magazine to write an article that would give parents ideas of what to talk about on date nights other than the kids. We were so happy they asked! Enjoy the tips below!

“Our youngest leaves for college next year. We’ve been so focused on parenting that we’ve lost touch with each other.”

As relationship counselors, this is a common phone call we receive from couples who realize they’re overdue on nurturing their own connection. While it’s wonderful to share the joys and challenges of parenting, an imbalanced emphasis on your kids can detract from your roles as lovers, best friends, and co-adventurers of life!

To create a vibrant, healthy relationship, it’s essential to regularly tend to your love, and there are little things that can make a big difference – like staying up to date with each other’s inner worlds during date nights! … Read More.


The one word that can wipe out all the good in your relationship…
Written on January 12th.

Have any guesses what the one word is that can wipe out the good?

We see this happen again and again. We’ll be sitting in a session with a couple. Partner A shares something from their heart, hoping that maybe, this time, their partner will really hear them. Maybe they even perk up for a moment as Partner B begins to respond.

Until…

This one word creeps in and changes everything, leaving Partner A deflated and disappointed, feeling unheard and unappreciated. Again.

This word can ruin an appreciation, turn an apology into a criticism, destroy an opportunity for connection, and wipe out all the celebratory energy in just one breath.

Wondering what it is?

It’s this one little sneaky word: “but.”

Below, we’ve given you some examples of some of the most common “but’s” (in no particular order) that we’re suggesting you clear from your vocabulary…

#1 – The Defensive But

“Yea, but you…”

The Defensive But has a hard time receiving feedback, gets defensive rather than open-minded, is critical rather than curious, and is stuck in their own head, rather than dropping into their partner’s heart and really hearing them with empathy. … Read More.


How to Stay Connected As a Team, No Matter the Project
Written on December 14th.


If you are like most couples, you may find that, when you and your beloved work on projects together, you tend to criticize your beloved or feel criticized, you have different opinions, and they become a source of conflict or stress, you wish your beloved would just do things your way, you feel frustrated, annoyed, discouraged, disappointed, there’s a power struggle going on, and/or you start nitpicking.

Rest assured, you are not alone AND there is a much better way!

Today, we’re excited to share with you the 6 essential keys to working on any project with your beloved, whether it be a house project, running a business together, planning a party or vacation together, or raising children.

The first essential key is simply this…

#1 – Commit to being on the SAME team.
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